Maybe it's "postpartum depression" if you have these symptoms? How do you treat your partner properly?

 

You can't just leave it to yourself, so the way you relate will be a problem. At this point, you'll need to include what your closest partner can do and external help. Explain the story in detail.

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What should parents' partners with postpartum depression watch out for?

We will "rely rely on each other" by mixing partners, family members, administration, and in some cases medical institutions.If you say "It's okay" or "Cheer up," it can give the impression of "Do something for yourself," depending on how you receive it, so easy encouragement needs to be careful.

If you are depressed, you inadvertently try to find out the cause.

For vague postpartum anxiety, you may not be familiar with the process of "questioning the cause → solving." I'm also a mother of two, but there was something I didn't know why I was depressed. One thing to say is that because you may have to take care of your baby every few hours for the time being after childbirth, your partner "creates your own time or nap time" on behalf of the night child, even if it is not every night.

At that time, is it valid to hear specific requests such as 'What do you want me to do?'?

There are several stages of postpartum depression, so you have no choice but to judge according to the person's condition. If postpartum depression becomes severe, it becomes difficult to judge what to do because your thoughts are not organized. Only, "Don't you want to die?If you feel that your face is dark, please actively check the presence or absence of your own plateau such as ." One of the purposes of postpartum depression measures is to prevent suicide.

In that case, I think the partner will be able to share the housework or childcare independently.

The situation of parents who take care of their babies changes beyond imagination, with and without their babies. Until then, your daily life that you could stay at your own pace has changed, and you have to adjust almost all of your actions to the baby's pace. If your partner is being pushed to childcare, please make sure to make a 'time at my own pace'. It doesn't mean you're lonely. It is an image that frees the couple from "parenting" while still maintaining their marital relationship. Also, the dad's postpartum depression is on the rise. There will be a series of unexperienced incidents, but I think the experience of a couple working together to overcome leads to a strong bond between the family after that.

If there's a postpartum depression sign, I'll see a doctor

Even if you help with housework or childcare, you can assume that you are scolded for being "different way."

From your point of view, "something different" happens not only depending on the baby but also depending on the partner. So, for example, it might be good to practice rehearsals before giving birth, such as 'I use this way of folding a T-shirt.' Only the mother can pay for breast milk, but other childcare and housework will be shared by the couple. There will be a lot of rehearsals, right?

If there is a prior agreement, it is easy to make time for the other person.

That's right. You have to be in a state of "I don't know what you want me to do" and your partner "I don't know what to do" to find an exit. On the other hand, if you say, "You picked up the laundry and folded it, thank you," you will feel refreshed and have a post-circulation. Wouldn't it be easier to talk about your usual worries? It is also important to create a conversation time for couples.

It's also your partner's role to recommend medical treatment as needed, right?

Yes, you can't sleep with a sign that needs medical attention, you can't eat, you can't smile, you can't say more pessimistic things.' Also, let's use the Edinburgh Postpartum Depression Questionnaire, which can be easily obtained through the Internet. If you get a score close to 9, I think you should see a doctor before the symptoms get worse. The treatment doesn't matter whether it's obstetrics or gynecology that gave birth to a baby or the closest psychiatrist.If the threshold of a medical institution is high, I think you can consult a health center.

It's a general idea, but it looks like a male helping a female. Wouldn't you think of things as 'female-centered'?

Women have significant hormonal balance changes compared to men. Men may also suffer from depression due to large environmental changes, but it is true that women are more likely to suffer from postpartum depression. So regardless of whether it is "female-centered" or not, I think it is important for couples to work together to work together to raise children.It will be important to think of it as a structure in which the couple, "one side helps one side," is not the structure of the subject, but a structure in which the couple, "grow a new life together," became the subject.

In some cases, the partner consults with the professional

But it's hard to say "go to the hospital", isn't it?

Wouldn't it be "Let's go together" rather than "Go?" Please refer to the Edinburgh Postpartum Depression Questionnaire and don't hesitate to see a doctor when you have severe depression. You will also be accompanied by a partner to hear the medical understanding and response to your current condition. There will be many hints such as how to treat at home. In some cases, there is an administrative service that takes care of children during hospitalization.

I think the midwife who visits your home is also a reliable person, right?

That's right. You don't have to decline because it's a national system. Postpartum life is completely different from life until now. Let's actively consult about your concerns.I think the midwife may recommend it if you need a checkup at that time.

If treatment is deemed necessary, what is the flow?

Environmental adjustment, drug therapy, and psychotherapy are sometimes combined into three pillars. There are likely to be many environmental adjustments, but I think it is more difficult for "a family with a lot of eyes that pays more attention" than a nuclear family to develop depression. Because I can prevent loneliness and rely on people. There are places in the family where you can relax just by sitting next to someone without saying anything. However, depending on the relationship, it may be stressful to be together, so it is necessary to adjust the area to an environment that is less stressful for individuals.

Can a partner rely on the power of a professional?

Of course, but for partners who don't have postpartum depression, the threshold for medical institutions and others may be high. Let's start with "securing your own time" and "checking for signs of suicide," and then consult an administrative or medical institution if you don't know what to do.There is also an administration that provides "family support," a medical institution that offers "family counseling." You may consult the gynecologist who gave birth.

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This story is only general.Some people say, "Please listen to me together," some say, "You just have to be by my side anyway," and others say, "I want to be alone." Why don't you start moving rather than hesitating and doing nothing?Let's also rely on medical or administrative power while paying attention to "securing your own free time" and "preventing suicide."